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November 11, 2017

@wnt_sum_snack hey man. When I had a similar problem, I would try and trick myself by saying “I’ll do this (any productive activity) for only ten minutes” and then I end up doing it for an hour or more. The problem that you described is that you are too focused on the end result, and the sheer realization of how much work needs to be done and the possibility of failure keeps you from starting anything.

@wnt_sum_snack it can get overwhelming if you’re trying so many things at once…I wouldn’t call it laziness but rather a deep rooted fear of failure with laziness as a cover. Do smaller things one step at a time and give yourself encouragement every step. Sometimes moving forward with others gives that small push you need to keep at it. If it wasn’t for some work acquaintances inspiring me to apply for other jobs I prob would’ve moved back to my hometown and quit working in the tv industry, so it worked for me

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September 19, 2017

INFP careers seekers often experience an inner struggle between their conscious versus less conscious functions. While their top two functions, Fi and Ne, are clearly more “right-brained” (i.e., concerned with empathy, the arts and humanities, etc.), their less conscious functions (Te and Si) beckon them to pursue left-brained enterprises involving facts, data, and rational systems or procedures.

So which route should INFPs take? Are they better off following their strengths (Fi-Ne), or should they pursue a path that allows them to explore and develop their weaker functions (Si-Te)? While selecting the former might seem the obvious choice, the mystique and allure of their inferior T function can be difficult to ignore. Te can be strong motivator for INFPs. Even if it isn’t their greatest strength, it may comprise their greatest interest.

INFPs who choose to pursue T careers often encounter a couple of difficulties. First, T careers can place heavy demands on their inferior function. While such demands may be welcomed in small amounts, too many demands can prove overly stressful and ultimately exhausting for INFPs. Second, INFPs may find that they miss the Fi or Ne element in certain T careers. They may, for instance, find themselves longing for work where they can help people more directly (Fi) or where they can enjoy more creative freedom (Fi-Ne).

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September 19, 2017

John says

Hey everybody.

Much to the frustration of my friends and family I have always seen the world differently to the people around me which has always estranged and abnormal.

I’m nearing 30 and am still yet to find any line of work that has brought me any form of fulfilment so I decided to take some personality test to try and discover a career path I am suited to. This is how I discovered that my personality type is infp. Everything I found while researching this online made so much sense. A little creepy really.

Music is my passion. Especially punk music due to its outsider culture and values aligning with my own. I love to play music and sing but due to being extremely self conscious this has never gotten further that playing at home by myself or to very close friends. It’s the lyrics that really get me. Music theory bores the hell out of me and doesn’t seem anywhere near as important as the message.

Travelling has been another of my passions and have spent most of my 20s working until I have enough money to go on another trip. I love landing in a city I’ve never been to and having to find out how it works. No planning just learn as you go.

For work I have always just done the jobs that came to me. Earning enough to get by but never really choosing anything. I have always been good at my jobs but I think this is more due to me avoiding conflict at all cost rather that any sense of ambition. I have recently been studying small business as the notion of answering to nobody very appealing. But the more I study I’m finding that it all comes back to money and money has never interested me all that much. To the point where I haven’t looked at my account balance in months. I have enough money in there. That’s all I need to know ha.

Personal relationships are also a struggle for me. I have no problem talking to people but I don’t let people get to know me very well. Aside from a few close friends. Ha and this also means I’m still single. I’ve always wanted a family and I fear this will never happen due to my shyness.

I know things need to change but I have no clue which direction to go in.

Any suggestions on how to improve my situation would be gratefully appreciated.
Sorry this is so long.
Thanks for your time.

AC says

Hey John,

I would strongly recommend reading the “Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. This book, and its underlying philosophy, helped me immensely. I no longer waste time wondering if there is a certain “path” for me – rather, I’ve learned to live in the present moment and let things “be”, which has allowed me to follow a path organically without constant judgement and second guessing. Mindfulness and meditation has also been invaluable. You’ll be surprised how well life starts to work for you once you break free from constant thinking and live within the present.

“I love landing in a city I’ve never been to and having to find out how it works. No planning just learn as you go.” — Use this approach to your career search. Part of the problem, I think, is that you spend a lot of time ruminating about a decision – and, ultimately, you will always find a reason not to pursue a career if you spend enough time thinking about it. Don’t always believe what your mind tells you. Approach it the same way you approach moving to a new city – learn as you go! You’ll make mistakes, but that’s OK – actually, it’s the only way to live.

Hope this helps!

AC
https://personalityjunkie.com/infp-careers-jobs-majors/

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August 31, 2017

mayb I am lying to myself.

mayb it’s more apparent frm other people that I am nt interested.

They asked if my parents had a huge influence on me choosing archi.

dp ask for people interested in archi.

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July 20, 2017

i think i am v opportunistic!!

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May 31, 2017

Now stop and think about the number of times you’ve had the same conversation with this person about the same self-deprecating scenarios they find themselves in time and again. Notice a common pattern? The fact of the matter is you can’t fix people if they don’t want to be fixed. Some people have been catered to all their lives by most everyone they know and they relish the boost they get to their confidence when they bully people into putting them on a pedestal. Nothing that you say or do is going to change them and turn them into the friend or family member you’ve always wanted to be in a relationship with. I know that this is a hard pill to swallow and it’s a little disconcerting, but hopefully in time you will realize that your happiness and self-esteem should matter more to you than it has in the past. The sooner you realize that this same energy would be much better spent on yourself and the people in your life that DO matter, the happier you will become.

Tackling your personal relationships will give you the confidence to achieve your dream.

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February 12, 2017

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February 12, 2017

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January 15, 2017